I’m squelching
Facebook.
As a kid, my family took road trips up and down I-5 – from Oregon,
going to Washington or California.
When
we traveled with friends, we had a CB-Radio to communicate between
vehicles.
CB- Radios were imperfect – and a significant amount of “noise”
– rattling-rustling-screeching noises -often came through the CB Radio
speaker. I didn’t understand how it
worked, but I remember how my dad would dial the “squelch” button back &
forth and the chaotic noise would dissipate, at least a little bit.
I’ve thought about this “squelch” feature with a growing
angst I’ve had about how I engage Facebook – and how my friends engage
Facebook.
The “squelch” feature on a radio transmitter adjusts the
level at which the radio responds to a signal.
If the squelch is turned down, all the noises come through – and it
sounds like chaos. If the squelch is
turned up, only the strongest, clearest signals come through. “Breaker, breaker, this is M&M .” (M&M was my “handle” – for Marty Michelson,
of course!)
Over the next few weeks I’m going to work on adjusting my “squelch”
feature on Facebook. (No, this is not a
real feature !) I’m going to be
adjusting what I tune-in – and what I tune-out – and how I turn on Facebook
entirely.
Squelching Facebook -
I’m going to
refreshingly tune in to many things I love about Facebook:
I love reading about joys and sorrows in the lives of
friends. I’ll tune in for that.
I love updates on life that give insight into maturity,
achievements, growth, development, weddings, graduations, trips – and festive
occasions or situations of grief. I’ll
tune in for that.
I like pictures. I’ll
tune in for those! I'd prefer a few pictures - I won't go through your entire album. I'd sure like to see the highlights!
I like being able to stay in touch with extended
family. I’ll tune in for that.
I like knowing specifically about what is going on in the
lives of former students. I’ll tune in
for that.
I enjoy connection with persons I’ve gone to school with,
been in conferences with, or parishioners or other friends from over the
years. I like knowing how people are
doing. I’ll stay tuned in for
existential connection to meaningful events and maturity in life!
I enjoy reading about specific and deliberate causes that
people are invested in with their time -
the specific events of solidarity and activism that engage people’s lives. I’ll tune in for that.
If you blog, and write something cool in an extended way –
or if you know of someone who has written something important – and you send a
short clip or summary of it – more than likely I’ll click on your link and tune
in for that. I care about what personal
friends think, feel and share.
I’ll tune in for the funny in life. The silly things your kids say. The fact that you spilled your coffee and
left an awkward stain before your job interview. The quirky conversation you have with your
boss. I love these things. Share your life’s humor. I’ll like it!
If you have life-shaping-personally engaging religious views
– I’d like to read about them.
I'll come by to wish you a Happy Birthday or Happy Anniversary! Days to celebrate for sure!
And, I’m going to tune
out a bunch of other things.
If you’re posting any of what I call the “generated”
pictures or images designed for use in social media. I’ll tune that out.
I read News from around the Globe, daily, from a variety of
world sources. But, I don’t come to
Facebook for politics (unless it’s about or from an individual I know who is
actively engaged and invested with their life – then I’ll read with
enthusiasm.) I particularly don’t tune
in for personal assessments on party politics, in the U.S. There are lots of other things to read about
in the news - on news websites, not Facebook. I’m tuning that out.
I’m happy that many of my friends like this-or-that type of
sport – or this-or-that specific team. But, I don’t tune in for updates on your
favorite players, the recent scores of any game, nor do I need to know that any
friends (in Oklahoma City, in particular) are “Thundering Up!” If you go to a game, post a pic of yourself,
I’ll like it. If you (and every other
fan) is tweeting about refs, scores, rebounds, touchdowns, time-outs, or goals,-
and that’s all you have to say - I’ll tune that out. I don’t come to Facebook for ESPN commentary.
If you have a narrow religious bigotry – or if you Facebook
is a “tool” for you to push your beliefs on others (outside of the side-linked
blog entry that I can elect to read - or
not), I’ll probably tune you out. I’m a
Christian myself. My life is bound up in
that as my identity, but I don’t come to Facebook to convert others – nor do I
want others to criticize or ostracize my religious commitments.
If you direct message me on Facebook – or invite me to an event – I
may or may not tune in – I’m not sure. I
come to see what it’s going on in people’s lives – and to share the things
going on in my life, so some evites are helpful! If you need me for something
in a work or deliberate way – send me an email.
If you want to send me a ‘status update’ direct note to me on my wall – super! If you need me for an appointment or review
or work – I’ll tune that out. Facebook
is not work. No work gets done
there! (Trust me, I see the evidence of
the lack of work on Facebook in University classrooms!)
If you've read a unique book - or seen a great movie - and want to sing
it's praise. I'll probably check it out. If you've just read the same
book that every other person is reading on the New York Times
Best-Seller list - or seen the same movie that just took in millions on
the most recent opening night of whatever year - I'm not sure that your
post will inspire me that something remarkable is happening. Maybe.
If you’re into a cause you support, faithfully – you genuinely
might make me a believer with you.
I
believe in causes
that promote Good – the good
for the all!
If you’re posting about
the latest trending subject that everyone else is posting about in the trending
need to supposedly support this trend, I’ll probably tune it out.
I believe Kony should be stopped and peace
should be fostered – but I don’t think it does much good to jump on the latest
bandwagon of tweets &updates . . . while months later, Kony still isn’t
stopped no matter how many people tweeted it, status updated it, or shared the
video!
Facebook is a rallying place for
a bunch of
nothing when it comes to actually changing things or making
the world better or different.
If you’re
just commenting on the latest trending subject or cause – I’ll probably tune
you out.
If you’re rallying around the
latest cause with a venomous “shout” that ostracizes or hurts others, I might
unfriend you.
The world needs more
generosity and kindness, not another place for bullying or belittling.
And, I’m going to turn-off
Facebook, too.
As I monitor my squelch on Facebook, I’ll also be turning it
off more than I’m turning it on! Some
days, I might come to connect for an hour or more. Most days, I’ll just be here to share
birthday wishes and like your latest pictures – for a few minutes.
As I squelch out much of the chaotic noise of Facebook – I’m
going to tune in my signal to other great things in my life! I’ll share that in due time!
“Breaker-breaker.
This is M&M. We gone.”